One of the biggest fallacies in life is the search for happiness and joy in the next moment. When we look for happiness in the next moment, we will so often be disappointed. I have no control over the next moment. I have no control over other people. But I do have control over how I will embrace this present moment or how I will treat other people in my presence. Since my wife died four months ago, I find myself missing her deeply every day. When this pain of missing her surfaces at various times each day, I embrace this pain fully and become so lovingly grateful for her Loving Presence in my life. When I embrace this moment, my tears turn into gratitude and a profound experience of God comes over me. This all takes place in a present moment which then helps me to appreciate life and the meaning of life even deeper.
In the embrace of the pain or the joy of the present moment, I experience the purpose of my life: to be loving toward others and to be open and receptive to God. When I do this, I realize how short life is. This realization helps me to understand life: To experience God and other people in more loving and receptive manner. The embrace of this present sacred moment teaches me how to live life. I need to kindly and gently embrace this moment. In it I begin to have an uplifting and positive experience of God. I then realize that my happiness will not result from how other people will treat me. It will result from how I treat other people in a loving and kind manner by my words and actions.
The struggles and pain of life when fully embraced become so helpful in teaching me how to live this very short life on this planet. It is so easy to think that rushing to the next moment will be the source of my happiness and joy. How inaccurate this is. It is only in this moment that I will discover peace and happiness.
Sometimes that analysis of the present moment becomes an excuse to avoid what I am really feeling in this moment. It is in this moment that I will feel and experience what is most important for me to go deeper into life and deeper into God and deeper into Love. It is where joy is discovered by my embrace of this moment. I must always remember this.
As I write this article, I must stay in this moment. It is where wisdom gets discovered. It is also where I get to experience God. I t becomes a waste of time when I start searching for what will happen next. When I gently remain in this moment, my whole body begins to relax. I become aware of God’s gentle whisperings to me. And in these whisperings, I realize that life is so filled with God’s Loving Presence in the here and now.
Life is so very simple and uncomplicated when I simply remain in this present moment and become attuned to this moment. I must stop analyzing and simply let myself experience this present, sacred moment. It is in this very moment well embraced, that I will begin to have a profound, spiritual awakening.
Happiness is not discovered in relishing past moments or looking forward to next moments. Happiness is found in the embrace and acceptance of this moment. It is so simple but so easy to complicate. So today I will embrace this moment with out complicating it. It will be amazing what will happen.
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Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage & family therapist and limited licensed psychologist with a private practice in Troy. He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center. He conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Michigan. Cavaiani is associate editor and contributing writer for Human Development Magazine. His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday. He can be reached at 248-362-3340. His e-mail address is: Fredcavi@yahoo.com and his website is FredsCounselorsCorner.com.
In the embrace of the pain or the joy of the present moment, I experience the purpose of my life: to be loving toward others and to be open and receptive to God. When I do this, I realize how short life is. This realization helps me to understand life: To experience God and other people in more loving and receptive manner. The embrace of this present sacred moment teaches me how to live life. I need to kindly and gently embrace this moment. In it I begin to have an uplifting and positive experience of God. I then realize that my happiness will not result from how other people will treat me. It will result from how I treat other people in a loving and kind manner by my words and actions.
The struggles and pain of life when fully embraced become so helpful in teaching me how to live this very short life on this planet. It is so easy to think that rushing to the next moment will be the source of my happiness and joy. How inaccurate this is. It is only in this moment that I will discover peace and happiness.
Sometimes that analysis of the present moment becomes an excuse to avoid what I am really feeling in this moment. It is in this moment that I will feel and experience what is most important for me to go deeper into life and deeper into God and deeper into Love. It is where joy is discovered by my embrace of this moment. I must always remember this.
As I write this article, I must stay in this moment. It is where wisdom gets discovered. It is also where I get to experience God. I t becomes a waste of time when I start searching for what will happen next. When I gently remain in this moment, my whole body begins to relax. I become aware of God’s gentle whisperings to me. And in these whisperings, I realize that life is so filled with God’s Loving Presence in the here and now.
Life is so very simple and uncomplicated when I simply remain in this present moment and become attuned to this moment. I must stop analyzing and simply let myself experience this present, sacred moment. It is in this very moment well embraced, that I will begin to have a profound, spiritual awakening.
Happiness is not discovered in relishing past moments or looking forward to next moments. Happiness is found in the embrace and acceptance of this moment. It is so simple but so easy to complicate. So today I will embrace this moment with out complicating it. It will be amazing what will happen.
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Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage & family therapist and limited licensed psychologist with a private practice in Troy. He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center. He conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Michigan. Cavaiani is associate editor and contributing writer for Human Development Magazine. His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday. He can be reached at 248-362-3340. His e-mail address is: Fredcavi@yahoo.com and his website is FredsCounselorsCorner.com.
