COUNSELOR’S CORNER: Look for the presence of love each day

Everyone wants to feel loved. The quickest way to experience love to is give love to others. Kind words and actions bring a person into experiencing love in each moment. The other day I was looking for a clothing gift for one of my granddaughters. I asked a woman in the store, who was shopping also, if she knew where sweatshirts for women might be. She was so helpful and helped me find these articles of clothing even after I got lost. When people are kind to me in stores, I get tears in my eyes because I am experiencing such kindness and love. I thanked her with tears in my eyes. It is like I have been become so much more grateful and appreciative for the kindness that becomes present when other people help me.

When I am kind and grateful, I notice kindness and helpfulness in so many different situations. It also helps me to look for love and goodness everywhere. And when I look for this, I experience life as filled with kindness and goodness.

When I look for love and kind actions, I begin to notice this everywhere. I open doors for others. Others open doors for me. I smile at people. Other people smile at me. Love is a gift that is always present. Butto sees this gift of Love coming toward me, I must look for it with loving words and loving actions. When I do this, I start seeing Love everywhere. The practice of kindness in actions and words has such a positive and loving effect on people.

Life is very simple: Be loving toward everyone and stay in the present moment with loving words and loving actions. This attitude brings such internal freedom. A gentle smile, a kind thank you, a complimentary word to a waiter or a waitress: all of this sends out a positive energy of love. When I look for different ways to affirm people, I pour more love into the world.

Love makes life very simple and uncomplicated. When I am loving, I create a loving bond between others and myself. Every moment can become a loving and simple and tense-free moment. It is so amazing how love and kindness in words and actions can take away tension in us and other people.

 Today look for love and goodness in everyone and everywhere. When you look for LOVE, you will find it all around you.

Life can be painful when we stop looking for LOVE. Life becomes uplifting and joyful when I keep looking for love and when I keep pouring out love to others. When I keep things simple and stay in this present moment, I allow my better self to surface and send out positive and loving energy into people. And then everyone starts feeling better. What a blessing to others. What a blessing to ourself. Love does work. Be grateful. Stay simple. Always be loving and kind. And you will discover such inner peace and joy in each moment.
Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage & family therapist and limited licensed psychologist with a private practice in Troy. He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center. He conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Michigan. Cavaiani is associate editor and contributing writer for Human Development Magazine. His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday. He can be reached at 248-362-3340. His e-mail address is: and his website is